As the saying goes, you never get a second chance to make a good first impression. This holds true in almost every aspect of life, including dining. A proper table setting and serving etiquette may seem like a thing of the past, but for those who want to make a lasting impression, mastering these basics is essential.

Here, we break down the fundamentals of proper table serving etiquette, giving you the confidence you need to impress at any formal dining occasion.

1. Familiarize Yourself with the Place Setting:

Before even sitting down at the table, take a moment to observe and familiarize yourself with the place setting. A standard place setting includes a dinner plate in the center, with a salad plate, bread plate, and soup bowl arranged in a circular pattern around it. On the left side, you will find the forks, while the knives and spoons will be on the right side of the plate. Remember to work your way inwards by using the utensils from the outside in, with the salad fork being the first used.

2. Know Your Utensils:

It is essential to know which utensil to use for each course. Generally, utensils are placed in the order of use, with the ones closest to the plate being used first. Start with the napkin if you are unsure – it is used for wiping your mouth, blotting excess oil, and covering up when needing to get up from the table. Once seated, place the napkin on your lap. Remember to use the utensil that is furthest away from the plate for the first course and continue inwards.

3. Mastering the Art of Passing:

When passing food around the table, always make sure to pass the dish to the right, using your right hand. Additionally, never reach over someone’s plate to grab something – it is seen as impolite. Instead, ask for the dish to be passed to you. Once you are done with your dish, place your utensils on the plate, with the handles facing three o’clock.

4. The Dos and Don’ts of Dining:

While it may seem logical, there are a few dos and don’ts to consider when dining in a formal setting. For example, refrain from resting your elbows on the table and always keep them off the table when not eating. Additionally, when drinking from a glass, the pinky finger should always be tucked in – contrary to popular belief, this is not proper etiquette.

5. General Courtesies:

Remember to always use your utensils when eating – never eat with your fingers unless the food is intended to be eaten that way, such as with finger foods or bread. When in doubt, look to your host or follow their lead. Lastly, it is considered polite to wait until everyone at the table has been served before beginning to eat.

In conclusion, mastering proper table serving etiquette can seem daunting and overwhelming, but with these basics in mind, you are sure to impress in any formal dining setting. Remember to familiarize yourself with the place setting, know your utensils, master the art of passing, and keep general courtesies in mind. With these skills, you are well on your way to becoming a dining etiquette pro!